December 3, 2014

What do they Speak there?

Here is an example of the types of conversations you have with TCKs (Third Culture Kids).

Abigail: Emma (our teammates daughter) says that she was born at the Taj Mahal!

K: umm... That's not true. 

A: but she said that's where she was born!

K: I think she was just making up a story. 

Caleb: Yes! She said there were doctors there!!

K: Maybe she said that, but that isn't true. She was born in Texas just like you. No wait... She was born in Arkansas. 

A: Arkansas?!? That's a weird name! 

K: Well, it's near Texas. It's in America too. 

A: hmm... What do they speak there, Mama?


November 4, 2014

Happy Birthday Andrew!!

Today is a special day because our sweet little boy, Andrew, is 1 today. We really enjoy having November birthdays because they seem to usher in the holiday season for our family. 


We put up our Thankful Tree on the first and then the holiday feeling begins. We have some friends over, make a homemade cake, decorate the house a little bit. We also have the perk of being able to take a day off for all our kid's birthdays bcause of our job. 


Then for lunch we have a traditional birthday food, yellow rice, which has become a family tradition of ours. 

So happy birthday little guy! We love you so much!

 

June 11, 2014

Our New Home

Though it has required much work over the past 2 months, the most exciting thing about getting back overseas has been our new home. We have truly been blessed throughout our time overseas to have just the right place to fulfill our needs.

When we first got here 8 years ago, our first home was a 12' by 12' room with a small bathroom attached to the back. It was very small and warm, but it did the job - we were forced to get out and make acquaintances and learn the language. With each passing move, and with each additional child, the homes have become larger.

Our new home has 4 rooms. A bedroom for us, for the kids, and for the baby. We also have a beautiful kitchen complete with cabinets (what a novelty!). In the small backyard the previous renter (also a Westerner) built a two story play area with a slide and three swings! We can look out the kitchen window and see them happily running around. We've also been blessed with a small office off the back of our bedroom. When the door is shut you cannot hear the kids playing - of course, they can still come in the room, but it's a good start. :)

We are looking forward to this next season of life overseas because of the wonderful provision of this home.

The front of our house

Side of the backyard with Mama's great helper

The dining area with one of the bedroom doors behind us

Living room with the door to the backyard behind that cute guitarist

Backyard during our Easter egg hunt

Abi in the play set looking for eggs

The kids sitting on the play set's steps

Mama's new dishwasher!

The front yard after an intense rain

Dining/ living area with our bedroom door in the back

Tea party in the backyard

Some cute kids welcoming you to the front porch


January 21, 2014

Finding My Significance

As many of you know, I (B) began suffering from panic attacks over 1 1/2 years ago. We still don't know how they started, but we've been able to understand more of why they came and how to keep them away.

As with most people, there are many factors that contribute to panic and/or anxiety, but mostly they have to do with change in ones life - new city, new job, new hours, new responsibilities, having children, etc. But for me, I found that the very root of my anxiety came from some old thoughts patterns of how I viewed myself and how I viewed others.

The best resource that I came across was a book recommended to me by my counselor during the fall of last year which is entitled The Search for Significance. This book suggests that all humans tend to believe 4 basic lies:

  1. I have to meet certain standards in order to feel good about myself.
  2. I have to meet the approval of certain others to feel good about myself.
  3. People who fail are unworthy of love and deserve to be punished.
  4. I am what I am. I cannot change. There is no hope for me.
At first I thought these statements were too simple to incapsulate all my "issues." But as the author took me through each one, I began to see that these statements, or lies, often times ruled me and forced me into some inappropriate behaviors, thoughts, and actions.

The best part of the book was how simply he answered these lies by stating the core truths of the gospel (these correspond to the false beliefs above).

  1. Because of justification, we are completely forgiven and fully pleasing to God. We no longer have to fear failure.
  2. Because of reconciliation, we are totally accepted by God.
  3. We no longer have to fear rejection. Because of propitiation, we are deeply loved by God. We no longer have to fear punishment or punish others.
  4. Because of regeneration, we have been made brand new, complete in Christ. We no longer need to experience the pain of shame.
As I read through many passages from Scripture, I was reminded of how powerful the gospel is. I was reminded that I am deeply loved, completely forgiven, fully pleasing to God, totally acceptable and accepted, and that I am absolutely complete in Christ.

The hard work of the book was the last half in which the reader is taught how to replace these long standing false beliefs with the powerful truths of the gospel. It didn't come naturally, but I am much better off now that I can ask myself "What false belief am I believing? Why am I believing this? What is the truth about myself and this other person?"

I found that much of my anxiety came from believing these false beliefs and letting them go unchecked. 

If you ever find yourself overreacting to certain experiences or getting easily flustered by other's comments or actions, I highly recommend going through this book AND it's corresponding workbook.

January 9, 2014

4 Becomes 5

It's been such a joy having Andrew with us. He is now 2 months old. He sleeps great, eats great, and smiles a lot. He is totally spoiling us! Here are some of our favorite pics from the past 2 months.


A beaming mama!

Holding Andrew just after birth (still connected to the placenta in the blue wrapping)

I think she likes him!


Happy Grandparents (minus Caleb who couldn't sit still)

Sweet sleeper

B's Mom and Abi kissing his head :)

Caleb was very happy about his new hat and Ernie shirt

Well, I'm happy to see you too, Andrew!

Nothing like a nap with a newborn

SNOW!!!

Our three (!!!) sweet kids

August 3, 2013

Leaving Home and Going Home

Getting ready to leave your family home for 7 months can be an arduous process. What to do with your car and motor bike? How do you pay the taxes? Electricity, water, phone still need to be paid? Then there is thinking through ministry obligations. What do my teammates need that I normally provide? How can I set them up to be self-sufficient? Do they need a book or two? Do they have an email address? Do they know who to call if something goes wrong? All in all it took a full 2 months to really feel ready to leave.

 

In addition to that there were things that needed to be set up for our time in the States. Getting a place to live, a car. Making doctor appointments, mid-wife appointments, and setting up a few speaking engagements. Oh, and then packing of course. It proved a little stressful to have a foot in Southeast Asia and a foot in America. 


Then came the preparations for the 4 flights (1.5 hr / 1.5 hr / 9.5 hr / 11.5 hr) with a 2 year old and a 4 year old. Thinking through what they needed took quite a bit of time. Then came the goodbyes. We had to say goodbye to our neighbors, our dear friends and co-workers (praying for a co-worker, below), and Abigail had a little party to say goodbye to her classmates (above). After 2 months of preparations, and 2 solid weeks of errands, packing, and meeting with people to get things settled, we were MORE than ready to get on that plane and come home.


So, thank you to all of you who prayed for our preparations and our travel. We have felt very grateful to the Lord who tied everything up by the time it was ready to go (and not a moment earlier - which is often the case). Now that we are Stateside we are excited to see many of you who pray for us all the time.